What Do You Do When You Get Mad At Someone?

What do you do when you get mad at someone? Usually something they did or said ticked you off and you got upset and angry. Kind of a typical occurrence right? If not, I envy you because I get mad at someone almost every day even if its over the dumbest thing in the world like what direction the toilet paper went on the stand or something extremely dumb and inconsequential like that. Anyway, when you get mad at someone, how do you respond to the situation? Do you start fuming and go to that person and tell them exactly how you feel about what they did or said? Or do you sit there and bottle it up, say nothing and then explode on another day when things are so far built up? First off, its best if you are able to brush it off and move on, especially with the really stupid mundane things. Sometimes however, whatever the person did or said that got you so mad is not something you can just brush off. Sometimes these things could be something like a friend acting like a total jerk or a parent complaining that you are unreliable or don't listen or something. When you have these things happen, the first thing you should do is examine yourself. What are you doing wrong in the situation to cause the person to do or say such a thing? Next think about what God would want you to do instead. Once you have examined yourself that is when you figure out how to respond. Do you respond in anger and tell the person off? Or do you respond in love and humility and apologize for what you have done to cause them to do/say what they did. That is the best option right there. I know, much easier said than done and sometimes you end up responding in anger and make things worse. When this happens, the first thing you should do is pray. Asking God what you should do next is always a good idea especially in these situations. Paul in the bible tells us to never let the sun go down on your anger. I personally agree and think this is GREAT advice because you never know what may happen that night or the next day. That person you are angry with chances are is angry at you too. When this happens that anger can fester for both them and you. So it is best to be able to get it off your chest so that you can work on repairing the relationship. So I HIGHLY encourage you to get things worked out before the day is over.
Basically the gist of this is saying that it is best to respond in love and humility when angry at someone and things will go MUCH better. Once again, I know it is easier said than done. I have a difficult time with this myself. I find it hard to push my pride away and accept that I am probably part of the issue and apologize. My wise Sa Beom Nim (Martial arts instructor) told us just the other day that it when you remind other people of something, you are reminding yourself the same thing and this is exactly whats happening right now because I have just as many issues with this as anyone else if not more.
I hope that you can learn something from this and that I was able to help you in some way.

Chipper signing off.

P.S. Sorry I haven't posted anything in for EVER. Been super busy and to be honest the blog has been the last thing on my mind.

P.P.S This post is inspired by a friend of mine (Who's name will be kept private) who is struggling with some relationship issues with their parents. I'm sure you know who you are and I am praying for you.